Working towards making a good first impression is a vital step everyone must take.
Be it a date, an interview, a party, or any other form of meeting, being at your best (to create a good picture of yourself) is a major key to securing a solid relationship.
It’s surprising that many are yet to see the need to work towards creating a good first impression. These people hide behind statements like:
“I prefer to be me,” “I can’t pretend to be who I’m not,” “I have to be taken for who I am,” etc.
Being “you” often isn’t a big NO–it’s not. But most times, your rude behavior, crazy-looking haircut, thousands of silly jokes, and other attitudes you display when being “you” might just send a load of wrong messages.
And to avoid creating a negative impression on first meetings, there are vital things you have to note.
That said, are you ready to create a good first impression when next you meet with someone new? If yes, then the below tips are specifically for you.
How to Make a Good First Impression
1. Be in a Proper Mood
Your mood can affect what you say, and how you behave. So it’s impossible to make a remarkable first impression when in a bad mood.
And, if you try to, you might end up pulling down the roof because your coffee got spilled, or even throw a punch at a passerby because your precious shoe got stepped on.
The hack is this:
Before stepping out of your house, try brightening up your mood. You may have gotten an annoying phone call, mail to remind you of your many yet-to-be-cleared bills, or something more devastating–a sack letter from your boss. But, in any case, there is still a way out.
When in a situation like this, you have two options to choose from.
1. To brighten up your mood–by speaking to a close friend, taking series of deep breaths, bursting your eardrums with your favorite songs, or by having a warm shower.
2. To reschedule your appointment–by coming up with a “tangible” excuse.
Being in a good mood is a vital key to making a good first impression.
And if your mood is so bad and can’t be reversed in a short while, then try coming up with a new date. Picking a new day in the week might do just fine.
2. Keep to Time
Being a second, a minute (or even five minutes) late, can create a wrong impression of you.
You don’t want your soon-to-be fiancee to think her fiance might keep her waiting in the cold, do you?
And I guess you don’t want to get misjudged by your soon-to-be boss. By giving him a reason to think you might end up keeping a potential customer waiting while relaxing in your bedroom and setting your hair in coils, right?
It remains a fact that; on first encounters, there are no such things as “tangible” excuses for showing up late.
Being held up in traffic isn’t “tangible” enough as you’d have gotten past the traffic if you had left home an hour earlier.
Therefore, to make a good first impression, try being present minutes before the scheduled time. And, when it’s an interview, being present an hour earlier won’t be termed as “crazy.”
Keeping to time makes the person you are meeting for the first time believe you’re skilled in setting priorities. It also helps in building a reasonable level of trust.
And, the reward? A lasting relationship or something juicier–maybe, a million-dollar deal. Win-win!
3. Make Sure Your Outfit Fits
You sure don’t intend putting on a T-shirt to a dinner party, or a tuxedo to a beach party. Do you?
A popular saying goes like this, “The way you dress is the way you’ll be addressed.”
When meeting someone for the first time, (so as not to send the wrong signals) try dressing appropriately.
Aside from your outfit, your facial looks should also be checked. Going for a moderate (yet cute) choice of makeup can help in enhancing your facial looks.
As a young man, rocking a cool shirt (and pant) along with a cute haircut and a carefully polished pair of shoes will do just fine.
In making a good first impression, your outfit greatly matters. So, be at your best.
4. Talk Less
Fine, you talk in thousands. But, in this case, you have to stay cool. Talking like a robot won’t send a right message–never!
This is what to do instead…
Try maintaining a good level of silence and be swift to analyze the environment you find yourself in.
In a business meeting, try speaking only when you’ve got an idea that doesn’t suck.
When on a date, be sure to let the other party speak. Let it be more like a conversation (or chat), and not a “valedictory speech.”
In an interview, try giving straightforward answers to every question you’re asked. No one is interested in knowing the history of the organizations you’ve worked with.
For example, when asked how much you feel will suit your professionalism, be sure to go straight to the point–call out your PRICE!
Although, you may have a degree in telling silly (yet, funny) jokes, but you can’t tell; the person you’re meeting for the first time might just end up tagging you as a “kid” or a “joker.”
Therefore, to create an outstanding first impression, be careful to speak only when necessary.
5. Pay Total Attention
I guess you don’t wish to get tapped a thousand time before your mind gets awakened.
I also believe you won’t love to be asked an attention-grabbing question like, “Hi, are you still listening?” over and over again.
When on a date or a hangout with someone you haven’t met before, try to stay attentive.
Although, the person you are hanging out with, might be as “boring” as Pinky (the crazy character in the pinky and the brain cartoon), yet you still owe him/her your ears.
It’s all about making an awesome first impression, right? So, try to stay attentive no matter what.
When asked a question, or when given an opportunity to speak, be swift to pick up the conversation–so it won’t seem like you haven’t been listening all the while.
Although being “serious” on first encounters isn’t so bad, yet you have to be “flexible” to avoid questions like:
“Hi dear, are you still here?”
“Sir, should I repeat myself?”
“Dude, did you get my question?”
And so on.
6. Mind Your Body Movement
Swinging your arms like a pendulum in motion won’t help in creating a good impression of you.
When meeting with someone new, always remember that every move you make sends a message.
Still don’t get it? I’ll explain.
What do you think leads to questions like…
“Hey! Can you stop staring around like you’re surrounded by a gang of thieves?” Or,
“Please dear, can you stop swinging your arms that high? This is a walk, not a military parade!”
Repeatedly moving a part of your body might make the person you are newly meeting feel uncomfortable (and unsafe). In most cases, you might end up being tagged as someone who’s “restless.”
Sadly, a bad impression has been made.
7. Show Some Confidence
You don’t wish to be judged as someone who is shy, do you?
Therefore, to make a good first impression, try showing a noticeable level of confidence–even if you are the timidest person on earth.
This is how to go about it:
i. Make eye contacts: Try not to place your gaze on the foot of the person you are hanging out with for the first time (except you are admiring their shoes, though).
Looking straight into the person’s eyes makes you seem confident in their sight.
ii. Give a firm handshake: Yes, the deal is over, and it’s time to seal it all. Will you let your business associate feel you are afraid of incurring a loss, by making your shaky hands get noticed?
So, even when in doubt, and when filled with fear, be sure to give a firm handshake.
Lastly, don’t forget to…
iii. Give a cute smile: I do this almost every time, and the result doesn’t fail to impress me.
When you lose boldness, it shows on your face. So, to erase the image created by “timidity,” be swift to give a cute smile.
And you know what?
The wider your cheek gets, the better the result. So, be confident to show off your shiny teeth.
When working towards creating an awesome first impression, be sure to remember the value of a winning smile.
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By talking less, smiling when necessary, making fewer body movements, paying total attention, keeping to time, and being in a lively mood, you will definitely create an outstanding first impression.
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