“Oh, Lord! Why is life so wicked?” This question is always asked by a man when he fails one more time. He feels bitter, sorrowful and loses confidence in himself and his ability.
Most times, when we get hit by failure, we grant it much attention, giving it room to affect our life, productivity, and dream.
But, for how long will we continue this way?
The truth is this; I’ve once failed, and you’ve once failed.
But, what differentiates the both of us is our ability to manage our lives and move on–even without looking back, without regrets and a profound loss of enthusiasm.
Most time, when I get into the den of failure, I ask myself…
“As humans aren’t we bound to fail at one time or the other?”
“Isn’t failure a process everyone must go through to come out gold (successful)?”
“Are we going to sit back, weep our livers out and give up because we’ve failed once when there are persons who have failed 99 times?”
Failure is one experience that defines us, our ability, our strength and our weakness.
But, are you willing to learn the lessons it’s trying to teach you or fold your hands and act like your life will come to an end the next second?
Well, here are seven ways to get over failure without getting hurt:
1. Express Your Sorrow Outwardly
By compressing your pain inwardly, you only hurt yourself even more. The fact remains that; failure isn’t a thing of joy–and from my experience, it brings nothing but pain and sorrow.
But, will you keep on pretending like all is well when you are dying emotionally? A big No!
To get over failure, feel free to express your emotions outwardly.
Are your eyeballs sore already due to accumulated tears? Then cry out loud.
Do you feel like screaming until the roof drops? Then roar until your throat aches.
As stupid as it may seem, expressing one’s sorrow outwardly brings about a reasonable level of relief–emotionally.
2. Read the Success Stories of Others
You think your experience is more heartbreaking than that of any other human on earth?
Then take out time to go through the success stories and biographies of others. You can also read or watch interviews of successful people you look up to.
I recall going through a blog post by Jon Morrow on how his blog made (and still makes) over a $100,000 in just a month.
And, believe me, after reading this line…
“…I started four different blogs, working on them at night and on the weekends. The first three failed.”
I became even more motivated to give blogging a second try–even after failing previously.
I believe everyone has that one (or two) successful person(s) we look up to, aspire to be like, and admire. Why not search and find out how hard they struggled–repeatedly failing–before getting to the level they occupy?
You aren’t the only one in this sad state. Take out time to go through the success stories of others and get back to your feet!
“I’ve not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison
3. Read Quotes on Failure
As I explained in #2, most of the people we term as “successful” did experienced failure at one point–on their journey to success–or the other.
And, luckily, from their experiences, they have one or two words to keep us going.
Are you willing to unveil the gold behind these words? Then, get your eyes on some popular quotes on failure.
Below are some of my favorites:
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison
“Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.” – Truman Capote
“Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door” – Coco Chanel
“It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed” – Theodore Roosevelt
“Just because you fail once doesn’t mean you’re gonna fail at everything.” – Marilyn Monroe
4. Share Your Experience with a Trusted Friend
It’s often said that, “a problem shared is a problem half solved.” We all have that one friend that shares in our joy, suffering, and pain.
Get close to a trusted friend. Tell them how the whole experience went and how you weren’t able to secure success.
By sharing your experience with someone else, you’ll definitely experience a level of relief, knowing that there is someone out there who also feels your pain and is ready to stand by you all the way.
5. Try to Stay Focus on the Reward Ahead
You didn’t begin the race because you felt like warming your feet. Instead, you began the race because you knew there was a reward awaiting you.
When hit by failure, don’t sit back, look up to the sky and say, “must it be me?” Instead, create a visual picture in your mind of yourself achieving your dream(s).
Are you a student hit by academic failure? Don’t get too hard on yourself. Instead, try to focus more on the million-dollar contract awaiting you after completing your education.
Are you an entertainer who gets booed on every outing? Then, try to focus on your successes yet to come.
Imagine yourself walking towards a stage with a bunch of camera flashes and dozens of fans begging and struggling their way through for an autograph.
Sounds weird, right?
I’ve done this several times, and it ends up putting a smile on my face and brightening up my mood.
“Keep your best wishes close to your heart and watch what happens.” – Tony DeLiso
6. View Failure from a Different Angle
Another way to get over failure is by re-defining its meaning. Instead of seeing failure as the opposite of success, try seeing it as a hurdle we all must cross to attain success.
“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – Winston S. Churchill
Seeing failure as a dead-end won’t help in any way. Instead, see failure as an opportunity to learn–from those things you didn’t do right before.
7. Reminisce on Your Previous Successes
Most times, when we fail in a certain thing, we forget other times we succeeded in that same thing. For instance, as a student, failing a test shouldn’t break you.
Here’s the hack…
Get the result slips of your previous tests where you had an A, B or even a C.
Then, smile and tell yourself, “I’m not a failure, maybe I didn’t just prepare well.”
Thinking and talking about your previous successes will definitely motivate you–giving you the courage to drop the thoughts of failure and prepare a new plan that’ll help in securing success next time.
Failure is inevitable (as long as we remain humans)! But, will you let your past failure blur your future success? Hell No!
“And will you succeed? Yes indeed, yes indeed! Ninety-eight and three-quarters percent guaranteed” – Dr. Seuss
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